Yesterday I had a meeting with a close friend. He invited me to lunch. I had not seen him in probably 2 months or so, so I was happy to get together. My friend, let’s call him Steve, is a really physically fit guy, a very muscular guy.
I am fasting, but I decided to just have a small meal with him, it was a social thing, so I ordered a bowl of tomato soup. Fits within my diet, and it did not bother me that it was during my fasting time. The doctors that I follow online who are advocates of IF say that it is OK to break your fast for such social events, just eat something that is healthy, so that is what I did.
The meeting was “interesting”. It started out with “Wow, Bob, you really look great, the best I have ever seen you looking. I can see that you have lost weight, and your color is very good!” I thanked him and he asked me what is going on with me health-wise. Steve has been a big supporter through my heart surgery and other health issues, so he had an interest in how I am doing.
I explained to him what I am doing with the keto diet, Intermittent Fasting, etc. He seemedt very angry. He told me it was all a fallacy. He said that I am not doing the right thing. I explained to him that it is working well for me. I told him how I am no longer using insulin, no medication for diabetes, lost 16 pounds in the past 4 weeks. He said 16 pounds is nothing, if I was serious about it, I should be able to lose 15 pounds per week on an ongoing basis. “I’ve done it, Bob, that is what you have to do too”.
It got a little heated, because I firmly believe that what I am doing is working very well for me. Steve started telling me about a friend of his in the States, Charlie, who is built about the same as me, about the same weight, etc. “I have been all over Charlie for 10 years that he has to work out, he has to do x, he has to do y.” I explained to Steve that it is unlikely that Charlie will listen to him, and he asked why. I told him it was because for somebody like me, if I look at Steve and I see this very muscular, physically fit guy, and he is preaching at me how I need to do this and that… I think about how I have tried every possible solution over the years, and I am different than Steve is. What works for him has not worked for me. I explained to Steve that if this Keto thing keeps working for me, Charlie would be much more likely to listen to me, because we have similarities and we can give each other hope. When we look at Steve that is the “impossible hope”. After I told him that, he started to understand where I was coming from.
Our argument eased to a discussion and I explained a lot of what I am doing. He said he went from thinking I was 100% wrong to thinking that as unconventional as it sounds, he now thinks I am 80% right.
After about an hour of this “give and take” I invited Steve to come over to the house and we talked more about diet and such. I showed a video of a doctor that I follow online. Steve’s eyes became sparkling. He said that after seeing the doctor, he didn’t find it all that unconventional and he finally seemed to understand. That made me happy.
Steve is a good guy, and I like him a lot. For a while during the early part of our discussion/argument at the restaurant, I thought that our friendship may be coming to an end. I am so glad that it worked out, though.